Are You Tired of Being Stuck?
All you want is a little more.
More money, more love, more fun, more friends.
So what happens when we don't get what we want,
when the flow slows down or even stops?
You get mad, sad and unhappy.
You blame the president, the country, the war,
your mother, father, husband, wife, child, co-worker,
Anyone we can think of, even the driver of that car
who passed you on the freeway.
You find yourself stuck.
Stuck in the anger, stuck in the resentment, stuck
in the fear of what will happen now. You are stuck
because there is no flow. As soon as you get angry or
resentful or critical, the flow shuts down.
So you attract more stuckness. Then you start
defending your stuckness. Stop.
Stop defending your stuckness. The reason you defend
your stuckness position is because you want to be
right about who you are and what you do. Being right
then becomes resistance. Being in resistance puts
you in that rut of stuckness. A vicious circle.
The only way out of the rut, the only way to increase
the flow of anything is to forgive.
Forgiveness is the process that opens the flow.
Forgiveness lets your guard down from defending
your position. To let your guard down is the best
place to be if you want more of anything in your life.
If you are stuck, there is no flow, and you are
someplace you do not want to be, there is something
you can do.
If you want to be in another place or feel another
feeling or act another action, I have a secret.
The secret is forgiveness - really.
Forgiveness gets you off your position of being right.
Because your stuckness is really about being right.
When you are right about something, you think you
are in total absolute control. When others defy your
position by criticizing you or not giving you that
contract you worked so hard to get and think you
deserve, you become stuck.
This stuckness, this resistance, stops the flow of
anything, good or bad, from coming to you.
You are so stuck that you cannot think of a way out
or a new direction.
Forgiveness stops you for a minute. This stop allows
the flow of activity, of something other than
Here is a simple, effective, clear way to get unstuck.
Start by making a list of all the people you have any
issues with, or a feeling about, or a criticism of.
Maybe they did cut you off on the freeway.
Maybe they didn't keep their word to you.
Maybe they lied.
Maybe they didn't hire you for that job.
Check out the following example.
Trudy was supposed to meet you for lunch. She often
canceled on previous occasions. You hoped this time
would be different. It wasn't. She not only didn't
show up, she called at the very last minute to say
she was still an hour away. No real regret, just
sorry. So, what did you do? Let us say you became
resentful and argued with her and told her off.
What did this accomplish? You really didn't feel better.
All this argument did was remind you of all the other
times she stood you up. This reminder created more
memories of when others kept you waiting. You now go
back in time to recall numerous similar situations.
Again, you are stuck, you get angry and upset with
almost every little perceived slight. If you are stuck,
the goodness that you want, the more of what you want
will no longer flow.
Forgive Trudy. Really.
Get out your journal and write the following:
? I forgive Trudy for all the times she stood me up.
? I forgive Trudy for making me feel angry.
? I forgive Trudy for making me feel stuck.
You can start to feel your body changing. You have
just created an opening, an opportunity for the
the flow to begin.
? I appreciate Trudy for all of who she is.
? I appreciate myself for accepting Trudy as she is.
Okay, maybe you are not totally accepting of Trudy,
yet, but just the saying of it will open your valves.
The more often you forgive everyone who you
think has lied to you, ignored you, stood you up or
did not keep their word to you, the flow will begin.
Keep that journal out and continue to forgive everyone
on that list. Take the time for this exercise each and
every day until the flow begins.
Let forgiveness keep you on your path of unstuckness.
Let the flow of more money, more love, more fun,
and more friends begin.
Joanne Victoria is the author of Lighting Your Path!
How To Create the Life you Want - order here!
Joanne speaks to organizations and associations
about achieving more and still staying true to who
you really are.Tel: 415-491-1344
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Joanne Victoria, owner of New Diorections in Sausalito, CA,
is the author of Lighting Your Path!
How To Create the Life you Want and her new book: Vision
with a Capital V? - Achieve More in Your Business and
Personal LIfe. Joanne works with entrepreneurs, small
business owners, professional practice owners and
independent professionals who want to achieve more and
still remain true to who they really are. Joanne speaks to
organizations and associations about achieving more and
still staying true to who
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